Living Now

Dear Miss U,
So I’m very nervous about my girlfriend coming up in 53 days. We are both parents and agreed to stay in a hotel (I’m a single father and nobody but my mother, whom I currently assist, can help watch my son) and not have kids apart of this first visit… What are some tips we could use to calm our nerves? To make meeting seem less nerve racking… [read more]

You Can’t Know Unless You Try

Dear Miss U,
So, 2 years ago, I fell in love with this guy who was more than a thousand miles away. We loved each other by a lot but my parents never liked the idea of me dating anyone because they believed that my education was more important, so we kept our relationship a secret from everyone. We dated for a while but after that, he broke up with me because the distance was too much and we grew distant but we still talked to each other. We were mostly on and off but we definitely loved each other. A few months ago we stopped talking to each other because he told me to move on and that caused a fight and I didn’t talk to him until 1-2 months ago when he told me the tragic news that he had cancer… [read more]

Forget Marriage

Dear Miss U,
So my ex-boyfriend broke up with me yesterday over text because we were a long distance relationship and I know I’m going to have a hard time coping with it. I know I am currently really young and everyone is saying that I can find someone else but I really don’t think I want anyone else. I just want him. He said that he has no feelings anymore but when I asked if there’s a chance to get back together in the future he said “there always will be” but why would he say that if he has no feelings for me? Will I ever get him back? [read more]

Chill Out

Dear Miss U,
I met this sailor when he came to the base in my hometown when he was on leave from Japan. The past month we have spent every weekend together doing total couple things. He would take me out to dinner and a movie, or bowling, or mini golfing, or we would lay in my bed at watch movies and cuddle all day… [read more]

Lovers and Fighters

In the beginning, he used to say really cute things to me, and he wanted to FaceTime almost every night and call. He still texts me every morning, but he seems more interested in making sure he gets to Skype his buddies at night than me. I’m always the one calling or sending FaceTime/Skype invites. I get insecure very easily, and I don’t want that to affect our relationship, but… [read more]

Love Knows No Age

Dear Miss U,
I feel a little old seeing most of your questions seem to be from college students. But here goes. We met at 18 at university and became great friends. We were always in study groups together and both played rugby, so we had a lot in common. However, we were both always in other relationships and were always very respectful of that. As we grew up we stayed in touch and even went to each other’s weddings. My husband left me 2 years ago and his wife left him 1 year ago. I was the first person he called to tell… [read more]

The Next Great Love Story

Dear Miss U,
We broke up 6 years ago. I needed more and he said no, so with my first job offer on the other side of the world I left. After a year on my leave, we had short visits as “just friends.” Today I live a $600+ flight away. A year ago I wrote explaining that I miss him and if there was a chance for us. He said yes, but was seeing someone. So, I met someone else… [read more]

Talk Time

Dear Miss U,
I have been having troubles with my boyfriend because he has become busier this year. He recently got a job at the cinema near him and he barely has time to talk to me. He goes to school during the day and works at night. I know that he works because he wants to help his family and I’m really happy that he does that but in a way, I feel sad. I feel like he doesn’t have time for me anymore… [read more]

Space and Time

Dear Miss U,
…The thing is, it’s been weeks. I’ve tried gently nudging him, asking for updates on how he’s doing, but the responses I’ve gotten have been vague, at best. We’ve had a few conversations, but they’ve been about meaningless stuff. There’ll be spans of days when I don’t so much as hear a peep out of him, even if I’ve left him some supportive note. Even when one of us wants space, we tend to send little “I’m alive, I love you” messages every-so-often… [read more]

Loyally Torn

Dear Miss U,
I’m having some drama in my relationship right now problem is that I think my girlfriend is in touch with her ex. and it really bothers me in an insecure way. She told me he had cheated on her and that she doesn’t accept that kind of betrayal. And she told me in a recent talk, “Yes, I lasted a long time with him and at a certain point he was very important in my life but something that you need to understand: that’s my past and you got to live with it and accept it.” …[read more]