Talk Time

Dear Miss U,
I have been having troubles with my boyfriend because he has become busier this year. He recently got a job at the cinema near him and he barely has time to talk to me. He goes to school during the day and works at night. I know that he works because he wants to help his family and I’m really happy that he does that but in a way, I feel sad. I feel like he doesn’t have time for me anymore… [read more]

Space and Time

Dear Miss U,
…The thing is, it’s been weeks. I’ve tried gently nudging him, asking for updates on how he’s doing, but the responses I’ve gotten have been vague, at best. We’ve had a few conversations, but they’ve been about meaningless stuff. There’ll be spans of days when I don’t so much as hear a peep out of him, even if I’ve left him some supportive note. Even when one of us wants space, we tend to send little “I’m alive, I love you” messages every-so-often… [read more]

Loyally Torn

Dear Miss U,
I’m having some drama in my relationship right now problem is that I think my girlfriend is in touch with her ex. and it really bothers me in an insecure way. She told me he had cheated on her and that she doesn’t accept that kind of betrayal. And she told me in a recent talk, “Yes, I lasted a long time with him and at a certain point he was very important in my life but something that you need to understand: that’s my past and you got to live with it and accept it.” …[read more]

Perfectly Confused

Dear Miss U,
So my girlfriend and I have had a stable relationship for almost 3 years. There is one guy in her grade back home that she’s friends with. Tonight, when we were on the phone, she asked, “What if I like him?” I had no idea what to say… [read more]

Sweet Little Lies

Dear Miss U,
My boyfriend and I normally have a phenomenal relationship. He said I love you first, we have talked about moving in together for a long time, and although we are complete opposites, we have an amazing time together. Recently, my boyfriend moved away to attend a training program for a very intense job for 2 months. It requires a lot of work and time, and we hardly get to text throughout the day, but we talk every night. Before he left, he was texting me all the time with sweet things, and now I’m lucky if I get a short sentence out of him. He always says he is tired and needs to focus. He is hardly ever sweet and doesn’t seem interested in my day… [read more]

Start Asking Questions

Dear Miss U,
My boyfriend and I have been dating for a while. The first year we didn’t really FaceTime that much, mostly because he was busy with work and college and I felt like he didn’t have time for me. Four years have gone by and nothing’s changed. I have been loyal and faithful. He has come and gone. The only thing we actually talked about is having kids together, getting dogs, and living together. My real question is: with being with someone for more than 4 years, with no ring and being completely clueless about my love for him, am I wasting my time? Should I end this relationship for someone who’s willing to commit? [read more]

Of Friends & Futures

Dear Miss U,
This is my first LDR and my girlfriend lives 3,000 miles away. I am curious to your insight on allowing my girlfriend to hang out with a previous “friend with benefits.” I don’t know their full story, but her profession deals with pro-athletes, and he’s one of them. They had been hooking up just prior to our meeting but then we became head over heels for each other and began the relationship. She claims they are now just friends and that she intends to hang out with him again (outside of work responsibilities) and to trust her. However, I can’t come to terms with this “friendship.” And my gut wrenches thinking about it… [read more]


Dear Miss You,
…He has only one flaw: he’s very self-conscious and I always have a hard time making him Skype with me or send me pictures. He could send me pictures of everything and everyone around him but himself. For some reason, he has always been afraid I would leave him because he’s not “handsome enough” for me. I must admit he’s not very handsome, but he is very good looking. And besides, I love him, there’s no one else in the world I would rather be with… [read more]

Being a Support Person

Dear Miss U,
I’ve been in a pretty solid LDR with someone for about 1.5 months, and I couldn’t be happier. We have a lot in common and we’ve also been intimate on a few occasions when he visited me at my university. The only thing is, (besides living an hour from my university and 3+ hours from my hometown) he has very poor self-esteem. I basically tell him he is perfect, sweet and amazing all the time. Recently, when he got down on himself, he said, “Truthfully, nothing will probably happen between us because I’m a scumbag loser who won’t get a career in anything.” [read more]

Sad Songs Say So Much

Dear Miss U,
I recently lost my dad in the summer and went through a divorce. I met this man who was the most amazing man ever but he lives 1,800 miles away. We have been having a long distance relationship and every time I leave I feel so sad. How long should we wait before thinking about the future? I currently live with my mother but I don’t know if he’s willing to relocate. I feel guilty about leaving my mother and not sure what to do, but losing my dad the way I did made me realize how short life is and I want to be happy. Do I take a risk or live a life of loneliness to keep the peace at home? [read more]