Chill Out

Dear Miss U,
I met this sailor when he came to the base in my hometown when he was on leave from Japan. The past month we have spent every weekend together doing total couple things. He would take me out to dinner and a movie, or bowling, or mini golfing, or we would lay in my bed at watch movies and cuddle all day… [read more]

Lovers and Fighters

In the beginning, he used to say really cute things to me, and he wanted to FaceTime almost every night and call. He still texts me every morning, but he seems more interested in making sure he gets to Skype his buddies at night than me. I’m always the one calling or sending FaceTime/Skype invites. I get insecure very easily, and I don’t want that to affect our relationship, but… [read more]

Love Knows No Age

Dear Miss U,
I feel a little old seeing most of your questions seem to be from college students. But here goes. We met at 18 at university and became great friends. We were always in study groups together and both played rugby, so we had a lot in common. However, we were both always in other relationships and were always very respectful of that. As we grew up we stayed in touch and even went to each other’s weddings. My husband left me 2 years ago and his wife left him 1 year ago. I was the first person he called to tell… [read more]

The Next Great Love Story

Dear Miss U,
We broke up 6 years ago. I needed more and he said no, so with my first job offer on the other side of the world I left. After a year on my leave, we had short visits as “just friends.” Today I live a $600+ flight away. A year ago I wrote explaining that I miss him and if there was a chance for us. He said yes, but was seeing someone. So, I met someone else… [read more]

Talk Time

Dear Miss U,
I have been having troubles with my boyfriend because he has become busier this year. He recently got a job at the cinema near him and he barely has time to talk to me. He goes to school during the day and works at night. I know that he works because he wants to help his family and I’m really happy that he does that but in a way, I feel sad. I feel like he doesn’t have time for me anymore… [read more]

Space and Time

Dear Miss U,
…The thing is, it’s been weeks. I’ve tried gently nudging him, asking for updates on how he’s doing, but the responses I’ve gotten have been vague, at best. We’ve had a few conversations, but they’ve been about meaningless stuff. There’ll be spans of days when I don’t so much as hear a peep out of him, even if I’ve left him some supportive note. Even when one of us wants space, we tend to send little “I’m alive, I love you” messages every-so-often… [read more]

Loyally Torn

Dear Miss U,
I’m having some drama in my relationship right now problem is that I think my girlfriend is in touch with her ex. and it really bothers me in an insecure way. She told me he had cheated on her and that she doesn’t accept that kind of betrayal. And she told me in a recent talk, “Yes, I lasted a long time with him and at a certain point he was very important in my life but something that you need to understand: that’s my past and you got to live with it and accept it.” …[read more]

Perfectly Confused

Dear Miss U,
So my girlfriend and I have had a stable relationship for almost 3 years. There is one guy in her grade back home that she’s friends with. Tonight, when we were on the phone, she asked, “What if I like him?” I had no idea what to say… [read more]

Sweet Little Lies

Dear Miss U,
My boyfriend and I normally have a phenomenal relationship. He said I love you first, we have talked about moving in together for a long time, and although we are complete opposites, we have an amazing time together. Recently, my boyfriend moved away to attend a training program for a very intense job for 2 months. It requires a lot of work and time, and we hardly get to text throughout the day, but we talk every night. Before he left, he was texting me all the time with sweet things, and now I’m lucky if I get a short sentence out of him. He always says he is tired and needs to focus. He is hardly ever sweet and doesn’t seem interested in my day… [read more]

Start Asking Questions

Dear Miss U,
My boyfriend and I have been dating for a while. The first year we didn’t really FaceTime that much, mostly because he was busy with work and college and I felt like he didn’t have time for me. Four years have gone by and nothing’s changed. I have been loyal and faithful. He has come and gone. The only thing we actually talked about is having kids together, getting dogs, and living together. My real question is: with being with someone for more than 4 years, with no ring and being completely clueless about my love for him, am I wasting my time? Should I end this relationship for someone who’s willing to commit? [read more]