Dear Miss U,
Now that I know the sweet taste of living together, being in a LDR doesn’t satisfy me anymore. It hurts a lot to lose those days, and I have started to wish that we could just break up now and get back together in two years (that’s when we’ll be able to close the distance), but who knows what’s going to happen in two years? I want to stay in this relationship, it’s really special, I can’t think of my future with anyone else and nor does he. But it also hurts a lot. How I can I keep going? How can I survive all this pain for two years? [read more]
When you’re the one left behind.
Dear Miss U,
…when I try to go to bed, I just cry and my mind goes places I never knew existed. I get jealous not only that he’s meeting new friends but that he is having fun, drinking, and dancing with people I don’t know. And the problem is not only that we don’t get to talk when he goes out, it is that when I even get to wait for him to get home and we do get to talk, I get so angry with how much fun he is having and all these girls he is meeting. I didn’t consider myself a jealous girlfriend, I trust him I really do, but my mind is making me go crazy it is even starting to affect my health. I know communication is the key but I don’t even know what to say to him; he isn’t doing anything wrong and I know that. What can I do to stop feeling this way? [read more]
How to create more hours in a day
Dear Miss U,
I started dating my boyfriend who lives in the UK four months ago, I live in Florida. We were inseparable in the first three months, face-timed for hours, and he would stay up way past the AM for me (as it is a 5 hour time difference). We love each other so so much. But, lately, he hasn’t been himself, I guess. He doesn’t call me pet names as much, doesn’t face-time me as much, maybe once a week for 20 minutes if I’m lucky. He has just recently told me he feels over the top stressed. He tries to balance time between me, his friends, and family, and never has time for himself. He’s come to me crying so much saying he just wants to be able to do the things a normal teenager does… [read more]
Friendship Advice
Dear Miss U,
I’m having issues, not with my LDR boyfriend, but within my circle of friends and I’m not sure what to do… I never asked for their advice, but they went on to say that I should date locally instead of doing LDR. I tried my hardest to tune them out, even gave them reasons why dating in New York is an absolute nightmare, but they went on to say that LDR never works and that I’ll just end up hurt! I am happy in my LDR, even if it’s only been 3 months. The only thing that hurts is knowing how much my friend doesn’t support my decision to date outside of our state… [read more]
Jealous Woman
Dear Miss U,
I’m finding it very hard to move on after my boyfriend texted me saying he found out his ex is pregnant and he decided to try to work it out with her for the sake of the baby. He was apologetic and wished me the best, but I’m hurt that he didn’t seem to give us much thought at all and that he told me all this via text. He had been flaking on calling a couple days prior but he claimed he had just found out. The relationship did progress fast, but we both felt so sure about each other that we made it official 3 weeks after meeting online. It has been years since I connected with someone like that I now I feel he lied about feeling the same… [read more]
Closely Guarded Secrets
Dear Miss U,
I met my boyfriend in person and at the time he was working in North Carolina. …I told him that if he was serious about me then he should make effort to come see me until we figure out how to close the distance. Let me not forget to mention he is undocumented which means it’s hard for him to get a job. My boyfriend didn’t give up: not only did he come to visit me from time to time but he also moved to my state. His brother gave him a job. …the biggest problem of all is my family, my father especially. He can’t accept him because he’s not from my country and also because he’s undocumented. …To make matters worse, I am now pregnant without being married to the man I’m living with. …How can I tell my family? Please help! [read more]
The Road To Forever
Dear Miss U,
After 3 years of being in this long distance relationship, I am starting to doubt if this really is working. I live in Italy and he lives in America. The first year was great. We made so many trips trying to see and spend as much time as possible with each other. We have planned on closing the distance, but things keep getting in the way. It’s been very rocky. At the moment I can’t move there because I have a daughter and her dad won’t let me take her away. He said he would move here but never makes the right steps to close the distance… [read more]
Over protective and possessive boyfriend
Dear Miss U,
…Being from a conservative culture, I often get upset or worry about the way she dresses and her lifestyle. Mind you, she is conservative for American standards. But I’m more conservative than her. Though we talk about this and she tries to make it easy for me, I fear that this might break us apart. I feel like she’s my most precious possession and I don’t want anyone else to even look at her. I should make it clear that I’m not being sexist. I do respect people’s personal choices irrespective of their gender. But when it comes to her, it’s different. It’s not about the way she dresses as much as it is about my worry that other men would get pervy around her… [read more]
Do You Think You’re Too Busy for Love?
Dear Miss U,
My boyfriend and I have been dating for 9 months. We were so sweet at the beginning, both of us. But since the day he texted that he would be busy because of his project and final exam, we haven’t communicated anymore… [read more]