Dear Miss U,
I feel a little old seeing most of your questions seem to be from college students. But here goes. We met at 18 at university and became great friends. We were always in study groups together and both played rugby, so we had a lot in common. However, we were both always in other relationships and were always very respectful of that. As we grew up we stayed in touch and even went to each other’s weddings. My husband left me 2 years ago and his wife left him 1 year ago. I was the first person he called to tell… [read more]

Dear Miss U,
We broke up 6 years ago. I needed more and he said no, so with my first job offer on the other side of the world I left. After a year on my leave, we had short visits as “just friends.” Today I live a $600+ flight away. A year ago I wrote explaining that I miss him and if there was a chance for us. He said yes, but was seeing someone. So, I met someone else… [read more]

Dear Miss U,
I have been having troubles with my boyfriend because he has become busier this year. He recently got a job at the cinema near him and he barely has time to talk to me. He goes to school during the day and works at night. I know that he works because he wants to help his family and I’m really happy that he does that but in a way, I feel sad. I feel like he doesn’t have time for me anymore… [read more]

Dear Miss U,
…The thing is, it’s been weeks. I’ve tried gently nudging him, asking for updates on how he’s doing, but the responses I’ve gotten have been vague, at best. We’ve had a few conversations, but they’ve been about meaningless stuff. There’ll be spans of days when I don’t so much as hear a peep out of him, even if I’ve left him some supportive note. Even when one of us wants space, we tend to send little “I’m alive, I love you” messages every-so-often… [read more]

Dear Miss U,
I’m having some drama in my relationship right now problem is that I think my girlfriend is in touch with her ex. and it really bothers me in an insecure way. She told me he had cheated on her and that she doesn’t accept that kind of betrayal. And she told me in a recent talk, “Yes, I lasted a long time with him and at a certain point he was very important in my life but something that you need to understand: that’s my past and you got to live with it and accept it.” …[read more]

Dear Miss U,
So my girlfriend and I have had a stable relationship for almost 3 years. There is one guy in her grade back home that she’s friends with. Tonight, when we were on the phone, she asked, “What if I like him?” I had no idea what to say… [read more]

Dear Miss U,
My boyfriend and I normally have a phenomenal relationship. He said I love you first, we have talked about moving in together for a long time, and although we are complete opposites, we have an amazing time together. Recently, my boyfriend moved away to attend a training program for a very intense job for 2 months. It requires a lot of work and time, and we hardly get to text throughout the day, but we talk every night. Before he left, he was texting me all the time with sweet things, and now I’m lucky if I get a short sentence out of him. He always says he is tired and needs to focus. He is hardly ever sweet and doesn’t seem interested in my day… [read more]