Early Days

Dear Miss U,
So I’ve been in a LDR with my boyfriend of 5 months and it has been going pretty well. This is my first ever relationship so I’m really nervous about getting overly excited and scaring him away, especially since about a month into our relationship he told me he loved me, and I said I loved him too. I couldn’t have been happier. Then about a week or so went by without him saying those three little words again and I asked him if he really meant it (he was drunk when he said it). He told me it scared him because… [read more]

In Marilyn’s Words

Dear Miss U,
I always told myself I would never be able to go through a long distance relationship, however, now I find myself seriously considering it now that my boyfriend has been offered to play football at his dream school. He is the one who offered the whole idea of a long distance relationship and before when we would talk about it I always said no, but now that’s it’s actually happening I really don’t know what to do… [read more]

Entitlement

Dear Miss U,
My boyfriend (A), is not a virgin, but I am. He lives in London and I live in Indiana, USA. It will be unfortunately two years or so before we meet each other. I can definitely understand his desire for physical touch. He wants to have a girl he can occasionally have sex with. He says it will be no strings attached and just sex. Also, he keeps reassuring me that he will love no one else but me… [read more]

Something Unexpected

Dear Miss U,
My SO and I have been dating for 5 months, I’ve had a first trip to meet him (from France to Canada) in September and already planned everything to go back in February. I want to surprise him but I don’t know what to do. I’ll explain myself. I told him initially that I was going to be here on Valentine’s Day but I finally got to be able to be here on Feb 4th. I know his best friends and I could plan it all to surprise him on this day with them but I have no idea how I could. I can’t go knock on his door since he is still living at his parent’s house and I don’t want to be any bother… [read more]

Where’s The Love?

Dear Miss U,
This is the 2nd time that I find myself in a LDR, and it seems that I am going the same way as the last one… He came to visit me 1 month ago during a week but we were both very tense and had painful conversations, so didn’t enjoy it a lot… Now, I am again drifting away from my LDR. I know he’s still a great person, but I just don’t think as much about talking to him… [read more]

When It’s Time To Go

Dear Miss U,
I have been with my bf for 18 months but have known him as a friend for 10+yrs. We live about 5hrs away from each other, we talk every day and get on a great majority of the time. Like most, the distance is difficult for us both but when I do see him it’s really good. However, it’s getting to the stage where we want to be together full time. I have said I’ll move as he has a son with his ex whom he has regular contact with. But when I bring up moving, he acts evasive and goes on about it being very complicated… [read more]

Somewhere Over The Rainbow

Dear Miss U,
My boyfriend and I are a pair like no other. We have so much in common, it’s unreal! I’m gay, he’s gay (obviously). I’m androgynous, he’s a transman. We have a lot of the same interests, and our love is really strong. We were best friends before we started dating, and it got to the point where us being boyfriends felt natural. And, while I have no doubts that anything is gonna come between us, I kind of worry that one day the spark is gonna wear off… [read more]

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Intimate Beginnings

Dear Miss U,
I met this awesome guy online for 3 months now. I live in Manila and he is from Rome. We are in our middle thirties and has expressed our feelings to one another though we don’t label ourselves boyfriend and girlfriend yet. He is very vocal that he wants to make love with me online (you know guys have a higher percentage of sex drive versus girls). Of course, I said that I cannot do that. I never had any relationship and sex prior to this and I am really not into this kind of thing… [read more]

Running Blindly into the Dark

Dear Miss U,
My boyfriend and I became exclusive recently… Day to day though I find myself having doubts how much he truly wants me. He has been a bad texter from the start and ever since mentioning it he has gotten a little better. He is really sweet with his texts, but there is a lack of them. I know he isn’t busy… [read more]

Leave Me Alone, I’m Lonely.

Dear Miss U,
This question is rather from my girlfriend but I will be the one asking. We were never physically with each other as a couple for more than 4 days. Our relationship started right before we parted to study in different colleges, literally, because I confessed the day before her flight date. Our first reunion was fall break where we met for 4 days. That was when we were actually together as a couple for the first time. We had a great time until a problem arose on the 4th day… [read more]