Dear Miss U,
…We’ve talked about when it would be possible to move in together and it looks like it’ll be another 4 to 5 years before that’s a possibility and that honestly scares me. The feeling that I’m having is telling me that I should leave now to save myself wasting those years on something that could be doomed from the start but part of me is saying that I should stay and see where it goes. I really don’t know if it’s the distance or the actual relationship that’s making me feel this way. I feel like our relationship is different when we’re together (in a good way) and I don’t want to throw it away over a small feeling. My head is going crazy trying to figure out what the right thing to do is for both of us… [read more]
I’m Crying In Fear. Please, Call The Police!
Dear Miss U,
My husband and I have never met but I love him with my heart. I think he is cheating on me with my sister. I have noticed her phone going off with his notifications. I even confronted her and she had an epileptic seizure and it’s all adding up now (he’s got a thing for seizures)… [read more]
Home for Christmas
Dear Miss U,
So, my boyfriend and I have been in a relationship for about 10 months. 3 months ago I moved to another country to study. I will go home for Christmas and I want to spend time with my family and him as well. The problem is that he expects me to spend all my time with him, while my family expects the same thing. I don`t know how to handle the situation. He lives in a different city than my parents, so this makes the situation even more hard for me to handle. When I told him I want to stay at home for Christmas, he became really upset and I felt bad for wanting to spend time at home for the two weeks while I am back in the country. How can I solve this problem?! [read more]
His “Abnormal” Obsession
Dear Miss U,
My boyfriend and I have been together for more than 1 year. We met online and we became really close friends and we fell in love with each other. He confessed that he loved to wear girls’ clothes always – like everything without makeup. But almost everything. Even though he is not even bisexual or gay or transgender he is totally straight, I accepted that because I love him a lot even though I told him that I don’t like abnormal things but you are free to try everything you want in home when we are together. But day by day, our conversation started to become boring because he has no topic to talk about except girls’ clothes and wearing them and getting my opinion about them… [read more]
What to Do When You Feel Abandoned
Dear Miss U,
…But the thing I am having trouble with is the fact that I feel resentful for the fact that he loves it there and he’s super integrated and he enjoys life and has all these friends and he’s changing and he’s going to Hawaii and Disney with his friends and he’s living it up and becoming fully engrained into his new life, while I’m here miserable and incomplete and I have bad anxiety and I can’t enjoy myself when I go out with friends and do things. I thought he was going to move and keep up our relationship. I wasn’t expecting him to start a new life and be thriving there; is that not a fair way to think about things? It killed the relationship for me… [read more]
He’ll Get Bored and Leave
Dear Miss U ,
I have been dating my boyfriend Francis long distance a few months now. He lives in New York and I’m in Florida and we met through a religious dating site. We seem to be a good match and have the same goals in life, however lately I feel like our convos are too short and we don’t have enough lengthy talks like most couples need while dating. We both have different schedules; he’s a busy man but I’m scared that we not talking enough and one day he will get bored and leave me. Any advice? [read more]
Is This Relationship Toxic?
Dear Miss U,
…I have moved to Spain for the next 3 years for university. He has mentioned many times that he feels frustrated with the long distance due to us not sharing experiences and has mentioned that it was me who put us in the long distance relationship by moving to Spain, even though I was accepted and had all my plans before even meeting him. He basically blames me for putting us in this position. He gets very uncomfortable when I go out and says it is unacceptable if I stay out past a certain time. He also thinks I am humiliating him when I post pictures about parties because he never posts those things himself. He recently broke up for a day because he does not want to hold me back, but I begged him to take me back. I feel as though I will be utterly lonely in a country I don’t know and I really want to be with him. I feel like I can’t live without him. Is this relationship toxic? [read more]
When Nothing Changes
Dear Miss U,
…One time I sent him a message saying I love him and miss him and he replied, “So what it doesn’t change.” He told me my feelings to him have changed and are not the same as 4 years ago. When I called him and said my feelings are the same, nothing changed, he said nothing. When I asked him again what is wrong with him, he said he didn’t love me anymore and wanted to be just a friend and told me this relationship will not work. This happened 3 days before my birthday. And now I am still crying don’t know what to do and he still doesn’t know that I am pregnant. My friend told me I don’t have to tell him that I am pregnant and told me I can do this and said, even if I tell him, this situation will not change since he doesn’t love me anymore… [read more]
Things Depression Says
Dear Miss U,
I’ve been in a long distance relationship for the past 3 months and it was going really well. We used to talk/video call twice a day even after being in different time zones. The past year has been the most wonderful year of my life and in that year I never thought I’d fall out of love with her ever. The problem started when I fell back into depression within the past few days. I had a problem with depression but when I was with my girlfriend, it had magically stopped for a year. So going on, I’ve been dealing with anxiety and depression again. And then one morning, I woke up and suddenly felt no love towards my girlfriend. It’s been 4-5 days since I haven’t talked to her. I used to see my future with her and all I want right now is to be alone. Although I know this might be a mistake, I don’t think I want to continue this relationship right now. But I can’t do that since it would completely break her. This is her first ever relationship and she loves me a lot. She can never imagine not being with me. I feel like a lost cause right now and can’t comprehend the current situation I’m in. [read more]