Dear Miss U,
My SO and I have been together a little over 18 months and we have talked about our wishes to be together someday, but when it comes to actually making plans for it to happen he shuts down and changes the subject. I confronted him about this a couple of times and he has said things like he does want to be together and he is sure it will happen or he doesn’t want to plan it out because he is afraid of being disappointed. I have tried to be understanding, it’s just that not having a real plan makes me feel insecure. I sometimes doubt his level of commitment to our future…[read more]
Wait and See
Dear Miss U,
I am situated in Vienna. I got to know a boy from USA.
He started to chat with me via Tinder. He texted that he will come to Vienna for vacation and wanted to meet for a drink. I thought, the best that could happen is a holiday fling. We met and went to a bar. He was so pretty and so likeable. every time he went to the bar to get us a drink he looked at me with this wicked glance…[read more]
A Little More Action
Dear Miss U,
I have been dating for 10 months and it has been completely long distance and now that we are approaching a year we are trying to figure out how to move to the same city. He is more than willing to make the move to me however when we started dating I had begun a job search because I wanted to live somewhere else. For this reason he said he would wait until I got the job I applied for so we can make moves. I just found out that I did not get the job…[read more]
Hasty Apprehension
Dear Miss U,
My girlfriend has been really sad lately. A month ago she sent me a mail filled with all kinds of food from her country and some surprises she didn’t tell me. Now, a month later, she is devastated by the fact that her mail didn’t arrive and she becomes sad every time she thinks of it and sometimes she even stays sad for days. When I try to cheer her up she stays sad, no matter what I do. I don’t know what to do. 🙁 …[read more]
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When The Mind Is Willing
Dear Miss U,
I have a LDR with a boy my age, he is a sweetheart but has some above average sexual satisfaction needs. I, on the other hand, have NO interest in sex or anything. I just don’t need it at all, and the thought of it kind of scares me. I have had intercourse earlier with him, but it was painful to me each time and so my lust disappeared completely. I also have non-existent self-esteem which makes it difficult to me to have any “sexy time” at all…[read more]
Just This Once
Dear Miss U,
My girlfriend and I haven’t been dating very long, but we are very much in love. A few months ago I was approached with a job opportunity that would take me to China for a year. It’s been a dream of mine to travel since I was little, and a chance like this I feel like I can’t afford to pass up. Since then, my girlfriend has been nothing but supportive of my dream but I see how much pain she is going through, and will go through if and when I leave. Having gone through much loss herself, she is the type of person to shut away her feelings and never really let them rise to the surface. My fear is that she will become a shell of the girl I love while I try desperately to try and keep things (and her) together while also being burdened by the weight of not being able to see me for months on end…[read more]
Altered Focus
Dear Miss U,
I have a girlfriend who lives in other part of the world there is almost 12 hrs difference. We have been dating for almost a year now. She recently met a guy in her country and now she is thinking twice about our relationship. She says, “If we have to continue, you need to give me reason to stay with you in future.” I really love her and want to be with her. I just can’t find the proper way to convince her. Although I earn enough to take on the responsibility she is still not convinced. Please help me to find out the reason and way to convince her. I really don’t want to lose her…[read more]
In All Seriousness
Dear Miss U,
I’m in my first ever relationship which happens to be a ldr. I live in CA and him in CT. I don’t mind the distance because I really do love him and trust him and so does he. It’s almost going to be 1 year and we’ve never met before in real life. Everyone keeps telling us were wasting our time w/ the LDR but are we really? Like if it wasn’t meant to be it wouldn’t have lasted this long. Despite our age everyone thinks were taking things too serious and people make fun of it and tell us it won’t last long. With that being said it makes us really sad thinking it’ll take a while for us to meet… [read more]
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Men Can’t Go Without Sex
Dear Miss U,
Have an invite on Facebook. Accepted and it turned out to be my soul mate. But he indicate he have financial problems to finish his contract and are unable to meet me. The problems are now dragging feet for 9 months. You see all this scams going on in life. His contract is on an oil rig. So he cannot send photos like everybody does, neither can he contact me via Skype. I only have to rely on the photo’s he sends. There is a few and one include his daughter.
What can I do to see if he is for real?…[read more]
Insecure
Dear Miss U,
I have been texting with my now ex-boyfriend for 2 months and then he disappeared for 1 month. I was sad because I was used to receive his massages all the time, every morning, every night. We used to text a lot and he even told me that he loves me. I was so sad, I would cry at night, waking up at 2 a.m. checking my phone but nothing. After two weeks he texted me just to check on me. I asked him: “Who are you?” Because I was hurting so much. So he disappeared again…[read more]