Once and For All: Is It Worth It?

Dear Miss U,
I’m writing here because I had fallen in love with a boy during a work and travel program in the US. This started at the very end of the trip, so we basically started catching feelings already being apart from each other. We talk every day. I am going to visit him in two months but I am wondering if it’s worth it. I feel really sure when we talk but not as much when I think about all the implications that this romance may have. I really don’t wanna suffer all the time of missing him and at the same time, I would miss my home so much… [read more]

She Doesn’t Miss “It”

Dear Miss U,

I’m stuck. I have feelings for my girlfriend that I cannot share with her. We’ve been in a relationship for 5 years and I’ve started to notice a problem. I don’t get what I need from her sexually. I only talk about myself, because it’s not something that she misses. We’ve talked about it and she is taking small steps. I’m grateful that she has taken some steps for me. But personally, I know that it’s not enough for me. I feel really lonely with these feelings, because I cannot share them with her. Because she can’t give me what I need and the topic is difficult, because she feels like she is disappointing me… [read more]

Embrace the Suck

Dear Miss U,
…She is going to a university in Miami which has a study abroad program which allows the student to study in their country of choice for 6 months and then go back to Miami. She was going to do 6 months in the UK, go back to Miami for 6 months, and then re-enroll for the program and do another 6 months here in the UK etc. Now, this is all good but she feels unable to spend those 6 months back at Miami alone, having been with me for the first time, and then having to leave me. The problem is I can’t move to Miami since I can’t get a job there (UK degrees are less in America than in the UK)… [read more]

Paranoid or Justified?

Dear Miss U,
My wife currently is working on a cruise for 6 months, at the moment she’s been gone for 2 weeks and it’s been the hardest 2 weeks ever. About 3 days in she called me really upset and told me that her designated ‘buddy’ had trapped her in his room and tried to manipulate her into cheating. (Something happened but she said she couldn’t go into details as she was upset and didn’t want to see my reaction as she felt it would make me not want her anymore.) She said that after reporting him if he wasn’t fired she was going to come home or ask to be transferred to another ship. However, he wasn’t and she decided that she was going to stay and just avoid him, as he was due to leave in 6 weeks. A few days later it has progressed to them spending time alone together at each island and in all photos they are constantly next to each other, there are even pictures they’ve taken alone that have been shared where she thought I couldn’t see them. And becoming friends on all social media… [read more]

Perfectly Valid Feelings

Dear Miss U,
My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 5 years. I’m from the US and he’s in the UK. At the beginning of March, he told me that he was beginning to be attracted to one of his female friends/coworkers for about 2-3 weeks. He told me because it was eating him up not telling me. From what he told me, she has no idea and he never acted on these feelings. It broke my heart. We talked it out and made a plan to start spending more time together (at the time we would only call 1-2 times a month) and try and visit more and stuff like that. He told me he would distance himself from this person… Jump to now, and he tells me he’s at the gym with a friend and this person. I tell him it’s weird he’s out with her but he says, “Eh, you have nothing to worry about.” [read more]

Love in the Most Expensive Places

Dear Miss U,
I have been with my boyfriend for just over 4 years. We are total opposites but somehow it works. I live in Manchester and he lives in London. But it is getting harder to see each other and it’s only for one night which can cost anywhere from 300 to 600 just for one night. We want to live together, at least I think and hope he does. But it’s very expensive in London. He’s very indecisive and would move to Manchester if the jobs paid enough as he is on quite a lot. I do try to tell him that his money would go further over here but he has none of it. Now he’s saying the spark is going and is distancing himself as much as possible… [read more]

Is it worth it?

Dear Miss U,
I love my girlfriend (girl & girl). She is amazing. We met in August of last year and started dating a month later. We’re still together today, but it’s been difficult. She moved back to her home country (Europe) in January and it’s been so hard. I live in the US. I feel like we just lose sight of why we love each other when we’re apart. I’ve visited her once in the past 3 months and when I arrived we were fine, nothing changed, love was back to normal. But the separation is hard. The lack of physical contact is so hard… [read more]

Time to Retire

Dear Miss U,
We met 6 yrs ago next week. We spend every third weekend together and have done for a long time. He drives over 4 hours to see me, we have weekends away and share many interests, however, I am becoming increasingly aware due to our age that life is passing us by and want him to commit to living together. He says he is ‘working on’ retiring and that he wants to come and live with me, but it seems to just drift on and on. I love him so much and don’t want to even think about not being with him, but I don’t know how much longer I can go on being alone without him… [read more]

How Much Does a Heart Emoji Mean?

Dear Miss U,
I have a very interesting LDR. My SO is younger than me, in another country and speaks another language. Currently, I am speaking his language to communicate with him. We were pretty good starting out and then I canceled our first meeting in January. After months of asking me if I was coming, I had to pull out last minuted because of financial reasons. I tried to explain to him that flying out of the country is a little pricey, more than I anticipated. With that being said, it’s still easier for me to go to him than it is for him to come to me. He says he understands but it was obvious he was very, very disappointed (he told his family and friends I was coming). Between then and now we also had some fights, two of them I told him I had enough and that I was leaving the relationship, and I did for 5 minutes. I don’t want to leave him. I love him but whenever he asked, “When are you coming? I want to see you” I cringe… [read more]