Dear Miss U,
We are in a transcontinental LDR we have grown close over the years and grown to love each other. I found that I struggled a lot with being lonely at times when I felt he was detached in the relationship. I also struggled with not being intimate with my partner since we had only seen each other once in the two years. I stepped out on our relationship… I used protection but somehow ended up pregnant. I was only with the other guy briefly and have no attachment with him now besides the baby I’m carrying. It killed me to keep the truth from my partner so I came clean about everything… [read more]
Restoring Balance
Dear Miss U,
We’ve been dating since September. It’s been going fantastically. We talk every day through IM, and we talk on the phone on my days off. We also make arrangements to see each other once a month. How do you know when it’s time to look at moving? I’m from the area he lives in. I don’t want to be pushy, but I want to be with him… [read more]
Your Big Sexy Brain
Dear Miss U,
I’m too anxious to speak to my long distance flirt (not official yet) on Skype. I live in England and he lives in Spain and I really like him I just don’t know how to get over the anxiety of speaking to him. I lived in Spain from ages 0-6 and now live in London so I speak fluent Spanish but I have difficulty pronouncing quite a few words so I’m worried that he won’t understand me or think I sound stupid. How do I get over this, because we’re hoping to meet in a month or two? [read more]
A Drop In The Bucket Of Your Forever
Dear Miss U,
We’re both scared, depressed and confused and I want more than anything for us to both be happy. Whenever something bad happens he always drifts away and creates distance instead of communicating what he feels. Then, that creates fights, break-ups and pain for both of us. He has been there through everything lately and I can’t imagine being able to be this strong without him. How do I get him to communicate and treat me better when he is depressed because he misses me? [read more]
Distance Causing Distance
Dear Miss U,
I’ve been in a relationship with my boyfriend for going on 2 years. We’re freshmen in college this year, and our whole childhood, have lived no more than 5-10 minutes away from one another. Well now, there’s about a 5-6 hour flight and 2,600 miles between us. I guess I’m just confused sometimes. With him being all the way across the country, it’s hard to always feel connected like we used to be. I know we’re so young, and changes are happening all around us, but I just want to know if there’s a way to feel less distance between us… [read more]
Non-Instant Communication
Dear Miss U,
My partner and I have gone through a lot of ups and downs and the latest down is the line between personal space and communicating (I don’t know if I explained that correctly). What I’m getting at is, simply, I have no friends. And my SO does. I’m starting to feel like I’m “smothering” them by texting or being annoyed if they don’t answer or if they don’t pick up a facetime call and it’s like I feel like I’m being annoying and clingy because of my lack of friendships or even “life.” [read more]
Feeling Disconnected
Dear Miss U,
I met my boyfriend in Japan when I traveled there in October. It was love at first sight and I spent five amazing weeks with him! I had to go back home to Canada though, and it has been a month since I have seen him. The first few weeks were fine, but about a week and a half ago I began having so many random doubts and worries. Questions began running through my mind and I doubted if I even loved him. Suddenly his texts and picture messages didn’t cheer me up anymore. I felt horrible because I know in my heart I love him, but everything just felt different… [read more]
Take Control of the Waiting
Dear Miss U,
I feel as if I am squeezed into his schedule when it’s convenient for him. He’s busy and that’s how it is. I still struggle with accepting that. I’d like him to be here or be with someone in my area. We had a few breaks which help but I still feel down. I miss him but sometimes wish I had the strength to break up with him because the distance hurts. I told him this, he tries to help but I usually end up irritated because he doesn’t know how it feels to be the one waiting. He’ll be with me for good in a year and a half but I feel like I cannot continue waiting. I’m frustrated because I’m stuck… [read more]
Anxiety and Depression
Dear Miss U,
My boyfriend has Straight Talk so there are times where we don’t speak for at least a week because his phone gets shut off in between pay days. I’ve had separation anxiety since I was a baby and although I’m usually pretty good with it when I am able to speak to my boyfriend, I have trouble when his phone is turned off. How should I deal with my separation anxiety when I am unable to speak with him for a week? [read more]
When It’s Not About You
Dear Miss U,
I am recently in a long distance relationship (as I moved away after university) with my boyfriend of 2 years who lives continents apart. He has had a bad past relationship which has made him possessive and very anxious about his significant other having guy friends and going out late at night. As you can guess his previous girlfriend cheated on him multiple times. I have spoken to him about the fact that I am not HER and he can completely trust me and he says that he does but every time I meet a guy friend or go out with my girlfriends at night we get into a heated argument… [read more]